One of the most interesting things that I have been following over the last few years is Prince Harry and Meghan. I usually do not pay much attention to the Royal Family, but now it has become a soap opera. It is as if every time I tell myself that nothing more can happen, then it does. Mostly it just makes me roll my eyes and ask myself what are these people doing and how could they be so daft by doing this.
Prince Harry was always one of the most loved members of the Royal family. As a child, he was cheeky and always made us smile. He lived a very privileged life where he was most likely told how important being a prince was. I doubt many had said "no" to him. This does not mean that he would be a spoiled brat. It could mean that he thought that he was more important than he really should be. Harry is only human and made some mistakes. Usually getting drunk and we all heard about the time he dressed as a nazi. These stories shocked people but it did not mean that they loved him less. The public was just worried about him.
Harry grew up in public. Imagine if all our mistakes and embarrassing moments were published on the front page of the tabloids. This is a scary thought and something that Harry experienced every day. We all remember when Princess Diana died and we could see that Harry had to walk behind the coffin. He did not want the public to see his grief and looked down at his shoes holding back any tears. Harry is not the only one that has lost his mother at such a young age. Millions of children are unfortunate to experience this. The difference is that Harry had to deal with this in public, with everyone looking on. Losing his mother changed his life and set a new path in his life. I do not think that he ever got over losing his mother.
Princess Diana contrary to what many believe was no saint. She had many mental problems and did her share to ruin the marriage with Charles. This being said, I think Harry considers her a saint and a victim. In a way, this could be understood. She was his mother and he would remember the good times that he had with her. William would have different memories of her. He would have been old enough to see her good sides and her weak sides. The death of Diana was something that Harry never got over. As I said, many of the things he does can be associated with the death of his mother.
The obvious one is his dislike of the press and the paparazzi. He blames these for the death of his mother. While he forgets that it is the press that keeps the royal family relevant, he is paranoid about them. He is afraid that his life is in danger. This could be understood by everyone. However, sometimes it can go too far, as the latest allegations of the 2-hour car chase in New York. This story has proven to be exaggerated and far from the truth. At the same time, it shows the damage that his mother's death has caused to his mental state.
One would think that being the youngest brother would be good. He would not have the responsibilities or the expectations of his older brother. Yes, Harry was a spare. This gave him more freedom and a chance to lead a life that suited him. The thing was that William and Harry were very close. This was despite that their personalities are like night and day. Of course, there would have been sibling rivalry. What family does not have this? The thing is that they had a special bond as brothers. This made the Royal family look more human.
Now let us talk about Meghan. This woman seemed to have a good childhood. She had parents that loved her. She had very limited success as an actress. She achieved something that thousands of others could not. She met Harry and they fell in love. As an outsider, I have to ask myself what were Meghan's reasons for getting married. Was it love or ambition? She claims that she knew nothing about the Royal family. This was not true. She apparently wrote about them on her blog years before she met Harry. Some of her friends said that she talked about them. Is there any person on this earth that does not know about the Royal family? I highly doubt that Meghan would have been an A-list movie star. Maybe she had attained her potential. This makes me ask again, Did Meghan love him or want to be a princess? Would she have married him if he was not royal or had money?
Which makes me ask myself what Harry was thinking. Did he love Meghan or were there some other reasons? I personally believe that he loved Meghan. At the same time, he could have been jealous of William having his own family. In his book "Spare", Harry even writes that he wondered when it would be his turn. Did Harry think that because Meghan was a celebrity, she could handle the pressure of being a Royal? Meghan would have been used to the press and constant attention. Harry blames the death of his mother on the press, and maybe he thought Meghan could deal with it.
That did not happen. The new Royal couple got a lot of negative press. Harry and Meghan claimed that these negative stories were planted by Royal members that were jealous of their popularity. The Sussex pair blamed the press and press scrutiny. In a way, this could be true. The press did publish a private letter that Meghan wrote to her father. While the Sussex pair wanted to be part-time royals, the Queen said you were either a working Royal or not. They lost their Royal titles and were now "only" a duke and duchess. They moved to Canada and later the USA. There are two things to consider here. This all showed that Meghan did not want criticism and only wanted to be praised. It also showed how much Harry hated the press and just wanted privacy.
Harry did not get privacy. The Sussex family did an interview with Oprah Winfrey. This was a revengeful interview where the Sussex couple did not hold back. They accused the Royal family of planting false stories in the press about them. Meghan said that she was suicidal and received no support from her inlaws. They also claimed that the Royal family were racist. Despite that Harry and Meghan contradicted each other during the interview, many believed them. The Royal family responded with these words, "The whole family is saddened to learn the full extent of how challenging the last few years have been for Harry and Meghan. The issues raised, particularly that of race, are concerning. While some recollections may vary, they are taken very seriously and will be addressed by the family privately. Harry, Meghan and Archie will always be much-loved family members." The important line here was that recollections may vary .
The Sussex pair was not done. After the Queen died, a Netflix documentary was released that repeated the allegations on Oprah. Despite the fact that many of the clips in the documentary were misleading (one paparazzi scene had nothing to do with Harry or Meghan, but was a Harry Potter premiere) and the Susex pair played the victim card, it was one of the most successful things Netflix ever done.
One would think that no more could be said. This was not true. Harry released a book about his life. I read "Spare" and I never sighed so much. Harry was very critical of his brother and stepmom. Who had not had a fight with their brother? Harry was the victim throughout the story. For me, it was a book of him whining and hoping we would feel sorry for him. The result for me is that it is obvious that he has many mental problems and even though he demands privacy, he did not respect other's privacy. After I read this book, I told my mother that I could write a book about my family that would be more truthful and shocking. However, some things should not be public, especially when you have a family that loves you.
Harry and Meghan claim they do not care about Titles. There is very little evidence to support this. They use their Titles on everything. There have even been people that claimed that they insisted on being addressed with their titles. There are even some who claim that the Sussex family tried to fire some people that were too critical or did not use the Titles. There could be some truth to this as the Sussex couple are involved in many court cases. They even insisted that their children be called a prince and princess. Let's face it, the only reason we want to listen to the Sussex couple is their connection to the Royal family. Do you think without this, they would be listened to?
Up to now, the Sussex couple had some support, especially from the younger people. This was about to change. South Park did an episode about the Sussex couple. They were portrayed as a couple that wanted privacy but demanded attention. Prince Harry was portrayed as a dumb prince and Meghan was "empty". There were so many hidden gems in this episode and I would advise you to see it. Despite that this was only a satirical parody, it had so many elements of truth. One would have hoped that the Sussex couple would ask themselves if this is what people thought about them and took another path.
This did not happen. I think that the Sussex couple is so narcissistic and feels that they deserve to have a higher status than they have. They want us to believe in their narrative and believe that what they say is the truth. The problem here is that much of what they say is not the truth. It could be the truth for them but remember what the Queen said, " some recollections may vary". One also has to ask is why does the Sussex family continue to thrash the Royal family? Do they not have anything else to offer or is it where they can earn the most money?
As an observer, I think that Harry sees a lot of his mother in Meghan. This is a scary thought wanting to marry someone that is like your mother. Megan most likely wanted to be as popular as Diana was. The obvious problem here is that Meghan is not Diana and could never be. Diana was likeable and was a loved princess. Meghan is not. Often people that know Meghan well or met her have nothing good to say. If Meghan tried to be a Dianna version 2, it failed. It would have been wiser if she just was herself. This worked for Kate. The death of his mother had given Harry many mental problems. Did he want Meghan as a mother figure that replaced his mother? This is creepy.
One has to look at how Meghan treats people that love her. Just look at how she treats her own father. Something happened that she disowned him. Maybe she had a right to be mad at him. Her father obviously loves her and wants to reconcile. Megan does not and has nothing to do with him. This makes me think about my own family. They have done some things that I find very hard to accept. Still, they are my family. I know that they love me. I have learned that forgiveness helps cure me and I still have people in my life that love me. Meghan did not learn this. In fact, some claim that she uses people to get what she wants and then drops them. This is so sad.
Not only did Meghan lose her family by her own choice. Now Harry had also lost his family. His allegations that were made public could have been done in private. This means that his family no longer trusts him. If they speak with Harry, would it be in the next book? Harry hurt them and everything that they believe in. Could William ever forgive his little brother, especially after he was attacked by Harry's allegations and people that he loved were also attacked? This is quite sad that brothers that were so close are now not speaking with each other. It is also sad that grandparents can not see their grandchildren.
The Sussex couple is now very unpopular. This is not only in the UK but the USA is waking up. Some are even predicting that their marriage is in trouble. I see Harry as the big loser from all this. Megan seems to have wanted celebrity status and fame. She got the attention she wanted. Harry just seems to want privacy and feel safe from the press. Many think he had let Meghan manipulate him and use him for her own needs. Where does this leave Harry? I do not see him as a victim, as he has caused enough trouble without Meghan. I do see him as a confused mentally ill man that has lost the network he had. He has alienated his family and his friends.
Time will tell as this drama continues.
We can learn something from this. Families are our foundation and our identity. We should never disown them unless they have damaged and hurt us. We can also learn that we cannot invent our own narrative through lies and half-truths. The truth will come out at the end.
Finally, I think playing the victim never helps anyone. Each of us has experienced traumas. We can choose to play the victim card or use trauma to make us a better person. Maybe instead of playing the victim and blaming everyone else, we should look in the mirror
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