今天久違的去女僕店~11Please respect copyright.PENANAhGcdTuro93
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,11Please respect copyright.PENANACF58nzJHjt
以至於我今天臨時改題目。11Please respect copyright.PENANAsGBg1tptxy
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,11Please respect copyright.PENANAa68eN9MUta
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,11Please respect copyright.PENANASwHxA5oAfr
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,11Please respect copyright.PENANAPQFQ7fK7v3
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...11Please respect copyright.PENANAQ2wV0ujaT0
第一次是當著我的面前,11Please respect copyright.PENANAyoNnnWvbLC
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,11Please respect copyright.PENANArPl1H3JJMN
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...11Please respect copyright.PENANA59HoTKuGjf
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...11Please respect copyright.PENANAJoH6Phpnpw
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,11Please respect copyright.PENANAIK4zmRFN49
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,11Please respect copyright.PENANAlTEnMbRz8E
因為發生得太快了,11Please respect copyright.PENANAQHH0Wm4xIF
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,11Please respect copyright.PENANAu5gW1qz4Wp
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...11Please respect copyright.PENANAmU9wc50igQ
讓我傷心的是,11Please respect copyright.PENANAXOSH31QL7g
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,11Please respect copyright.PENANAK1pRXHaYWC
其他都是男客人。11Please respect copyright.PENANAbJUTsUxt7A
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,11Please respect copyright.PENANACMfN3OrCzB
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,11Please respect copyright.PENANA10R4jdBkrV
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...11Please respect copyright.PENANAMkzBxeai2i
因為是背對著我的動作,11Please respect copyright.PENANAIP7ACaf5dh
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,11Please respect copyright.PENANA1ft2hLabdj
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,11Please respect copyright.PENANA87vQ9ojqoB
但我覺得即使是女僕,11Please respect copyright.PENANAeQi86D6UWg
以服務主人為名義,11Please respect copyright.PENANAc9ply2Fg9X
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。11Please respect copyright.PENANAC3GCbbb8Jm
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:11Please respect copyright.PENANA4TH8L2RUjv
這就只是打情罵俏呀~11Please respect copyright.PENANAe4TTrPBquq
「這樣很可愛」11Please respect copyright.PENANAFOd2zKFsAD
之類的...11Please respect copyright.PENANAuqSA1yp8Fv
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,11Please respect copyright.PENANArFjBg2OYYZ
相信不會有人說很可愛,11Please respect copyright.PENANAVwIWtEnsph
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...11Please respect copyright.PENANA2gkrHK2Y58
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,11Please respect copyright.PENANAIaC2BLu3dn
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...11Please respect copyright.PENANAG11dXrBmES
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...11Please respect copyright.PENANAsO4oC6Ped3
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,11Please respect copyright.PENANA2sLM1nBEWZ
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...11Please respect copyright.PENANAgPh5N3b7nm
可是發生問題的當下,11Please respect copyright.PENANAxhM6zeI3SW
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,11Please respect copyright.PENANAUylWGmz1vo
她說心情有被我影響...11Please respect copyright.PENANAz7oqZCRRCZ
然而我跟她解釋,11Please respect copyright.PENANA7QZt7ua1Tg
我還是會去光顧~11Please respect copyright.PENANA0IGj2f2Bnj
因為說真的發生這種事情,11Please respect copyright.PENANAaoebdIXp2f
我如果出手,11Please respect copyright.PENANAIZdkdWvrL6
場面會很尷尬,11Please respect copyright.PENANALHNfRgNdHQ
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...11Please respect copyright.PENANA04Of6AIIqZ
終究我只能安慰自己:11Please respect copyright.PENANA5M9TV2MJEx
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...11Please respect copyright.PENANAGTV4PnmFBc
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,11Please respect copyright.PENANAburSmxhBQI
但是把事情跟二姊說,11Please respect copyright.PENANADNajD7PphX
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,11Please respect copyright.PENANAidnXOAhsrf
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,11Please respect copyright.PENANApkUUtIf5n0
如果是學長的話,11Please respect copyright.PENANAaC6HM4ab94
他會怎麼做呢?11Please respect copyright.PENANA9iTrNNsCTh
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,11Please respect copyright.PENANAdZ9cgQ2e7E
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,11Please respect copyright.PENANAqEc7FpDKCH
我想第一種可能的做法是:11Please respect copyright.PENANAPPJQeXaedn
學長可能會說:11Please respect copyright.PENANALZgi8Y6ZH9
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」11Please respect copyright.PENANAsZ0mQBDsA4
一方面是讓加害者知道,11Please respect copyright.PENANAzkLayPkJa5
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,11Please respect copyright.PENANAdiBCnTKZSo
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。11Please respect copyright.PENANApuHLqoN6JS(有下次就把你送去性平會)11Please respect copyright.PENANA78NHx2L9Yv
第二種可能的做法是,11Please respect copyright.PENANAvWejcHV0Pk
事情發生後,11Please respect copyright.PENANApvLb7GRaOC
等Staff走遠,11Please respect copyright.PENANAb006GA1dXw
學長會問女僕:11Please respect copyright.PENANA0VY5zRGOdP
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,11Please respect copyright.PENANAqJcdn9Ye7u
怕他傷到妳了~」11Please respect copyright.PENANArU1yTZAAse
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。11Please respect copyright.PENANAeM6p1xI10l
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,11Please respect copyright.PENANA3h1Elk8uDu
也是讓女僕意識到,11Please respect copyright.PENANAgPz3aRFeZm
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,11Please respect copyright.PENANAFpUB9ulCbS
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...11Please respect copyright.PENANA0arRCYELql
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。11Please respect copyright.PENANA2dcPXlhUsV
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,11Please respect copyright.PENANAjMYFuTMIaV
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,11Please respect copyright.PENANAK7UOpJ3WQS
其實跟第二種的差別就是:11Please respect copyright.PENANAzczrXK2B90
改用寫的。11Please respect copyright.PENANAnPi0RhwF5d
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,11Please respect copyright.PENANAdjEXOGNjl7
用寫的話,11Please respect copyright.PENANA8x1bIJpd6Q
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,11Please respect copyright.PENANAfuV5MPOPWk
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,11Please respect copyright.PENANAlx4PtrNaN9
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),11Please respect copyright.PENANAg616WuNMy7
當然也可能微笑置之不理。11Please respect copyright.PENANAwO3P7l58Xy
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)11Please respect copyright.PENANAcZLoZXt7T0
總之,11Please respect copyright.PENANAC75HHKPmsX
客人也會心理不安,11Please respect copyright.PENANA8E6tEfkBlT
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。11Please respect copyright.PENANAAkejAecwSE
如果Staff有這種小動作,11Please respect copyright.PENANAk87y6GHNc9
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,11Please respect copyright.PENANAT2qxx15hXd
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)11Please respect copyright.PENANATeeV013gRb
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,11Please respect copyright.PENANAiOpI2n4KDz
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...11Please respect copyright.PENANAzhvMm8dp5X
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,11Please respect copyright.PENANAPBJbfQYIIr
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...11Please respect copyright.PENANAcCtpKNdwiF
(會犯的人就是會犯)11Please respect copyright.PENANAwpL5uz12yK
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,11Please respect copyright.PENANA3PxiAvsHmL
比起只是在心裡想,11Please respect copyright.PENANABeKf3flb8O
也許有那麼一天,11Please respect copyright.PENANAexQycbsxnA
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~11Please respect copyright.PENANACWH2JKsLzz
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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