今天久違的去女僕店~13Please respect copyright.PENANA1CC4jrhtFq
然而卻發生了讓我很驚訝的事情,13Please respect copyright.PENANAQ5d91OFyBF
以至於我今天臨時改題目。13Please respect copyright.PENANAHqKdb3Bm0C
雖然這個題目看起來很籠統,13Please respect copyright.PENANA7koBMXvYxz
但我應該真的是為了這件事情才這樣命題,13Please respect copyright.PENANAMQ1PabHIVb
之後不會有類似的題目了(怕觸景傷情)。
總之,我遇到疑似女僕被性騷擾的情況,13Please respect copyright.PENANAix2rq5YkMH
而且還是Staff直接對女僕動手...13Please respect copyright.PENANAP8Czneh2fg
第一次是當著我的面前,13Please respect copyright.PENANAt8O6ehloND
有點像是要懲罰女僕而做的動作,13Please respect copyright.PENANA3yLwujNjIk
但是我覺得不是每個人都能接受...13Please respect copyright.PENANA3UGbHpCOtN
而且那個動作力道不好其實對被害者也會有危險...13Please respect copyright.PENANAUPZU7b1Moa
我其實沒有辦法判斷女僕當下是什麼心情,13Please respect copyright.PENANAG9cW1tpW6e
也聽說過受害者很多在第一時間是愣住,13Please respect copyright.PENANANNrf5gEBJj
因為發生得太快了,13Please respect copyright.PENANAfQfiBOAFxI
根本還反應不過來...
後來又發生了另一個身體接觸的性騷擾動作,13Please respect copyright.PENANAWiQBMuEdHE
我其實很確信我的預感沒錯...13Please respect copyright.PENANAgJBuPqcuj6
讓我傷心的是,13Please respect copyright.PENANAe9t55wc3jl
當下只有我跟我姊這組女客人,13Please respect copyright.PENANAhRXgX5hr1z
其他都是男客人。13Please respect copyright.PENANA57CRb1sqjf
如果有女客人都敢當著面的話,13Please respect copyright.PENANAlEwJ9SbI7A
那都是男客人的情況下有沒有可能變本加厲呢...
另外似乎也有男客人有動作,13Please respect copyright.PENANAiLjk5XUAAY
而女僕好像是尷尬地笑笑...13Please respect copyright.PENANA0NSSilrIsy
因為是背對著我的動作,13Please respect copyright.PENANAg8P113c7Bz
所以我不確定做了什麼動作...
我一直覺得職業歸職業,13Please respect copyright.PENANATuy9KKjG37
說到賣藝不賣身可能有點嚴重,13Please respect copyright.PENANAabQhIrpLRE
但我覺得即使是女僕,13Please respect copyright.PENANAVUiyeHaJp5
以服務主人為名義,13Please respect copyright.PENANAPFStotfgaK
他們也不應該受到任何的性騷擾或不公平的對待。13Please respect copyright.PENANAEpq32nUJl3
男僕或者稱執事也是一樣該獲得尊重。
我也不能接受什麼:13Please respect copyright.PENANAt91ReHOBNl
這就只是打情罵俏呀~13Please respect copyright.PENANAHxCnvWsXqQ
「這樣很可愛」13Please respect copyright.PENANAwZNXqzqww8
之類的...13Please respect copyright.PENANAqhvLA8bQzx
因為反過來如果是男生(尤其是陽剛型的)被這樣對待,13Please respect copyright.PENANAQA3vkMGvYP
相信不會有人說很可愛,13Please respect copyright.PENANAj8Z3CuIVfp
男生直接卯別人一拳也不為過...
可是發生的當下我卻無法做任何事情...13Please respect copyright.PENANACSg0sxSlUi
因為每個小動作都是一眨眼的時間,13Please respect copyright.PENANAtosKEPAOsD
第二次跟我離的距離比較遠...13Please respect copyright.PENANATgpBOhh7h0
第一次則是在我面前(女僕來桌邊服務時),
我到現在還是有罪惡感...13Please respect copyright.PENANAbm0SEZEE6T
身為女性,且一直專注兩性關係,13Please respect copyright.PENANAbxLCXThWpV
拒吃台灣的麥當勞...13Please respect copyright.PENANALrqspUtk28
可是發生問題的當下,13Please respect copyright.PENANA6hoCWOuiH4
卻什麼也不能做...
我事後把事情跟我二姊說,13Please respect copyright.PENANAQnZpcd7mU4
她說心情有被我影響...13Please respect copyright.PENANAAfpfuWfjkP
然而我跟她解釋,13Please respect copyright.PENANAjMqcAKK9ja
我還是會去光顧~13Please respect copyright.PENANADEsMwyr8W5
因為說真的發生這種事情,13Please respect copyright.PENANAYPFIfUwRXZ
我如果出手,13Please respect copyright.PENANAWxwufZiN1D
場面會很尷尬,13Please respect copyright.PENANAvSElG8YidJ
也許會影響到當事人的仕途...13Please respect copyright.PENANAHt1b4zswd6
終究我只能安慰自己:13Please respect copyright.PENANAnPwzyW1Hc3
可能只有當事人自己反應或反抗了...13Please respect copyright.PENANAAAzqPG0DUf
所以雖然為了這件事情不太愉快,13Please respect copyright.PENANAgZMrjk2jMm
但是把事情跟二姊說,13Please respect copyright.PENANADZY6FqrDkF
也只是為了讓我心情緩和不要憋在心裡。
由於以自我的角度想這件事情真的太痛苦了,13Please respect copyright.PENANArAk2c0n8rK
因此我想藉著這個題目來分析,13Please respect copyright.PENANAChM0e0Mq6N
如果是學長的話,13Please respect copyright.PENANAqxBDn6t5re
他會怎麼做呢?13Please respect copyright.PENANA2q61ugaFJR
不過,用杜若可能的個性來分析是沒意義的,13Please respect copyright.PENANAZiCVfv7DgD
這只是用來轉換性別或者用他者來分析讓後果承擔沒那麼直接而已。
學長很會打圓場,13Please respect copyright.PENANA4TS7uSR4pD
我想第一種可能的做法是:13Please respect copyright.PENANAxIoVxdGzpS
學長可能會說:13Please respect copyright.PENANAxh1X9fwUlJ
「哇~小姐被懲罰了~好可憐喔~她已經很努力了,你下次別這樣對她好不好呢?」13Please respect copyright.PENANA2eYHvrBnzB
一方面是讓加害者知道,13Please respect copyright.PENANAf4QciIfZiq
有人注意到他不洽當的舉動,13Please respect copyright.PENANAm599wY5jXy
一方面也是警告或提醒加害者不應該有下次。13Please respect copyright.PENANAqnfnXoxIEE(有下次就把你送去性平會)13Please respect copyright.PENANA0JDQS2oHmg
第二種可能的做法是,13Please respect copyright.PENANAaffvLvyl0a
事情發生後,13Please respect copyright.PENANAPorD8Ry8L1
等Staff走遠,13Please respect copyright.PENANAY1mtGWdBwP
學長會問女僕:13Please respect copyright.PENANAUqfydKqAbc
「哈囉~妳還好嗎?妳剛剛有沒有覺得哪裡不舒服?我覺得剛剛那個人的動作不是很妥當,13Please respect copyright.PENANAjCe9mcR6or
怕他傷到妳了~」13Please respect copyright.PENANAvYqriurmXA
在當下硬跟著對方說教,有些人(未必是男性)可能會惱羞成怒。13Please respect copyright.PENANAyib3i8RdEW
但至少在事後關心一下女僕的狀況,13Please respect copyright.PENANASloJoJZAYi
也是讓女僕意識到,13Please respect copyright.PENANA8rrTWwbCap
剛剛那個不是巧合、也不是什麼開玩笑,13Please respect copyright.PENANA337VlpFFNV
是真的不妥當的行為,進而能夠好好的處理情緒或者有下次的應對方式。
很多時候發生事情,受害者反而會先檢討自己...13Please respect copyright.PENANAGm2MvQXkg9
甚至會不斷麻痺自己:其實那沒什麼、我沒有受傷。13Please respect copyright.PENANAVtOp5lXWy4
希望這時有人能夠開導他、接住他,13Please respect copyright.PENANA0nd0d1h49N
因為事後自己查覺到的傷是最痛的...
最後一種,13Please respect copyright.PENANArnBGuDvpWU
其實跟第二種的差別就是:13Please respect copyright.PENANAO3OW4R5UTy
改用寫的。13Please respect copyright.PENANAfyVBDaQc7j
如果用說的,不免隔牆有耳,13Please respect copyright.PENANA7nsteYUrEc
用寫的話,13Please respect copyright.PENANALlR98ONUNn
不管是用手機打字或者用筆寫在紙上,13Please respect copyright.PENANAT4Ua3lEOhm
當事人可能會直接用點頭或搖頭反應,13Please respect copyright.PENANAiRT8SUBicX
也可能小聲說話(悄悄話),13Please respect copyright.PENANASCKQg3G9wU
當然也可能微笑置之不理。13Please respect copyright.PENANAV9XqYacl4w
不見得會願意用寫的回應(要說/寫的話太多...)13Please respect copyright.PENANAx9hL7pdlQv
總之,13Please respect copyright.PENANAV6DYHJmj90
客人也會心理不安,13Please respect copyright.PENANAGFr0qNcKeD
這跟性別無關,任何性別都有可能被性騷擾。13Please respect copyright.PENANADORNXKtHg7
如果Staff有這種小動作,13Please respect copyright.PENANAUw2CGbPv69
那客人擔心自己也有可能被小動作,13Please respect copyright.PENANAw4UtDokg7P
這不為過吧...(你說Staff沒小動作還會擔心的,可能才叫做被害妄想症)13Please respect copyright.PENANANFYvrZ4Qlr
所以把這樣的擔憂反應給女僕,13Please respect copyright.PENANAWvQJ2nRaP9
也許還能將這樣的壓力施加給那個Staff...13Please respect copyright.PENANAQrXDnvlGjs
畢竟不管哪種性質的店,13Please respect copyright.PENANAq0PmCepVkb
我相信本質都不會是讓客人感覺不舒服。
雖然知道這些分析對於加害者來說都是屁...13Please respect copyright.PENANADc8J1fYQE5
(會犯的人就是會犯)13Please respect copyright.PENANAWUntme02px
然而當英雄都需要勇氣的,13Please respect copyright.PENANAhmVqrwFhyM
比起只是在心裡想,13Please respect copyright.PENANAXeJCNUY4Kb
也許有那麼一天,13Please respect copyright.PENANAqfyjni6Qxv
能夠成為出面英雄(還是叫出手英雄)~13Please respect copyright.PENANARfEN6hHzuf
也希望大家都不會遇到這些不舒服的事情~
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