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單身不一定會焦慮和寂寞,360Please respect copyright.PENANAV9TDIN2gqv
有拖拍又不一定會不焦慮和不寂寞,360Please respect copyright.PENANAN43YCXCIsT
但單身是可以寂寞的,360Please respect copyright.PENANAMyw0yyp0qX
寂寞的感覺是可以被容許和接納的。
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有太多閒言閒語和刻版印象,360Please respect copyright.PENANADXaNSAlQwn
令到單身人士與「寂寞」、「孤癖」、「沒人愛」、「有問題」等負面詞劃上等號,360Please respect copyright.PENANAoVXEaSV5WD
弄到「單身會寂寞」好像是多麼不要得、是多麼失敗的狀態。360Please respect copyright.PENANAH4UN2JNp94
單身人士明明活得自在,360Please respect copyright.PENANAOZRBoOmiMp
但為了不想被標籤負面形象,360Please respect copyright.PENANAy2X2vrUSwJ
又想為單身一族平反,360Please respect copyright.PENANADfLNYf1gQm
也要花力氣刻意解釋自己仍然安好地生活。360Please respect copyright.PENANArucHGl46as
同樣地,360Please respect copyright.PENANAJ7z7606zQB
這亦令到單身人士不敢寂寞,360Please respect copyright.PENANAQXAdsdfqo5
或者不敢感受和承認自己的寂寞。
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我們知道自己時常會寂寞,360Please respect copyright.PENANAqrf8UBIwqE
卻不願意好好去接納「寂寞」。
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單身一人也可以尋到自己的興趣、人生目標、朋友圈子,360Please respect copyright.PENANA26QjXNGtNn
可以活得精彩,360Please respect copyright.PENANAHOMYfD9SqX
同時,單身也是可以寂寞的,360Please respect copyright.PENANAksAZyMoFJo
It's ok!360Please respect copyright.PENANAw8N1y0o8iH
寂寞的原因因人而異,360Please respect copyright.PENANAPnbJxiVIm3
可能是因為沒有伴侶而失意,360Please respect copyright.PENANAjykxP7hXjF
也可能是因為不被支持、不被明白而寂寞,360Please respect copyright.PENANAnXapBnBZOg
但什麼寂寞的原因也好,360Please respect copyright.PENANAenvcS5Ubx9
也是這句:It's ok!
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寂寞的感覺是令人不舒服和不安穩,360Please respect copyright.PENANAxcXgZNiwye
有點像浮於一片無盡的大海之中,360Please respect copyright.PENANAxB2MrgW4qj
好像世界並無自己的立足之地,360Please respect copyright.PENANAUThgWnYsVy
這感覺是可怕的,360Please respect copyright.PENANAIogOq9iRhO
但這感覺並不是羞恥,並不是失敗。360Please respect copyright.PENANA6Pz9V2GP0Y
每個人都會經歷過這種不佳的狀態,360Please respect copyright.PENANAi03EuViKVo
只差你敢不敢承認自己的渴望與脆弱。
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「情緒」需要被看見、被接納,360Please respect copyright.PENANAkLXxGe7AT4
一旦你可以開放內心去接納自己任何好與壞的情緒,360Please respect copyright.PENANAMDfVnGcbp2
切切感受那份「情緒」過後,360Please respect copyright.PENANAitPXylKK7G
你學習到與「情緒」和平、安然共處,360Please respect copyright.PENANAnNJlEC7OxX
「情緒」就不會再糾纏你,可以漸漸自然流去。
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「寂寞」並不可怕,360Please respect copyright.PENANA4JM6wLolTH
只要它來到時你不抗拒它,360Please respect copyright.PENANA5u4KDXmIUw
不要故作沒事跟自己說:360Please respect copyright.PENANAgfHcwMQkeZ
我不可以寂寞。360Please respect copyright.PENANAwdpVtILGZW
也不要強硬地想一時三刻就能一手掃開「寂寞」,360Please respect copyright.PENANAW7LcSBugck
愈抗拒它,它就愈存在。360Please respect copyright.PENANAk31qvrIjMc
慢慢一步一步接納「寂寞」就是自己的一部分,360Please respect copyright.PENANAZcU4LHVqmI
就會沒那麼難受。
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你是可以不OK的,360Please respect copyright.PENANAzJ8hqiYYtp
你是可以寂寞的,360Please respect copyright.PENANAwl63HBCkCF
It's ok!360Please respect copyright.PENANARKDiwzZOpF
你要學習面對自己的寂寞,360Please respect copyright.PENANA56hzUDLZ92
也要容許自己有「做不到」的過程。
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