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單身不一定會焦慮和寂寞,361Please respect copyright.PENANAdgXM0R6Vle
有拖拍又不一定會不焦慮和不寂寞,361Please respect copyright.PENANASQonTa7Fbh
但單身是可以寂寞的,361Please respect copyright.PENANAvTaV68qZIw
寂寞的感覺是可以被容許和接納的。
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有太多閒言閒語和刻版印象,361Please respect copyright.PENANAxfm9Pyu88X
令到單身人士與「寂寞」、「孤癖」、「沒人愛」、「有問題」等負面詞劃上等號,361Please respect copyright.PENANAok39Z4fdsB
弄到「單身會寂寞」好像是多麼不要得、是多麼失敗的狀態。361Please respect copyright.PENANAyPhDLj02oL
單身人士明明活得自在,361Please respect copyright.PENANAQVfTEIoyAf
但為了不想被標籤負面形象,361Please respect copyright.PENANAh5Pmc2WBE7
又想為單身一族平反,361Please respect copyright.PENANAYitqnfwWbv
也要花力氣刻意解釋自己仍然安好地生活。361Please respect copyright.PENANAmyiyer5qLz
同樣地,361Please respect copyright.PENANAmsBINhsgxG
這亦令到單身人士不敢寂寞,361Please respect copyright.PENANA6GCMLn2hHm
或者不敢感受和承認自己的寂寞。
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我們知道自己時常會寂寞,361Please respect copyright.PENANA5KI1GqucNh
卻不願意好好去接納「寂寞」。
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單身一人也可以尋到自己的興趣、人生目標、朋友圈子,361Please respect copyright.PENANAG1Rtx5A6R3
可以活得精彩,361Please respect copyright.PENANAxZCcqkXZoE
同時,單身也是可以寂寞的,361Please respect copyright.PENANAvB3cyZif3P
It's ok!361Please respect copyright.PENANA9ca3rqGmaD
寂寞的原因因人而異,361Please respect copyright.PENANATrNoaix9HK
可能是因為沒有伴侶而失意,361Please respect copyright.PENANACzz3Y4xXfS
也可能是因為不被支持、不被明白而寂寞,361Please respect copyright.PENANAgvnkdaL3W7
但什麼寂寞的原因也好,361Please respect copyright.PENANAuE87wniapb
也是這句:It's ok!
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寂寞的感覺是令人不舒服和不安穩,361Please respect copyright.PENANAW0BH0IxDPI
有點像浮於一片無盡的大海之中,361Please respect copyright.PENANARvqLCNJTcP
好像世界並無自己的立足之地,361Please respect copyright.PENANA2TUwULvmeg
這感覺是可怕的,361Please respect copyright.PENANAGYQ1vXrY9S
但這感覺並不是羞恥,並不是失敗。361Please respect copyright.PENANAU6fSr6ziAo
每個人都會經歷過這種不佳的狀態,361Please respect copyright.PENANAR1BL6LMqU4
只差你敢不敢承認自己的渴望與脆弱。
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「情緒」需要被看見、被接納,361Please respect copyright.PENANAAlbL0t1FRa
一旦你可以開放內心去接納自己任何好與壞的情緒,361Please respect copyright.PENANAYoQlpcaBdr
切切感受那份「情緒」過後,361Please respect copyright.PENANAC0DGfhTcjg
你學習到與「情緒」和平、安然共處,361Please respect copyright.PENANAz7WUfz9Lzh
「情緒」就不會再糾纏你,可以漸漸自然流去。
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「寂寞」並不可怕,361Please respect copyright.PENANAYrOORhY3vl
只要它來到時你不抗拒它,361Please respect copyright.PENANAkFYGGFsKmm
不要故作沒事跟自己說:361Please respect copyright.PENANAJr7Fy9Js4y
我不可以寂寞。361Please respect copyright.PENANAE7vYZb8mL5
也不要強硬地想一時三刻就能一手掃開「寂寞」,361Please respect copyright.PENANAASQVJhnqCm
愈抗拒它,它就愈存在。361Please respect copyright.PENANAyQ5QuFvlmq
慢慢一步一步接納「寂寞」就是自己的一部分,361Please respect copyright.PENANAWQY6fo5Wil
就會沒那麼難受。
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你是可以不OK的,361Please respect copyright.PENANAe1NF76Uq9J
你是可以寂寞的,361Please respect copyright.PENANAjUEhfKrFx9
It's ok!361Please respect copyright.PENANAJ2YoQFajvS
你要學習面對自己的寂寞,361Please respect copyright.PENANAgubNVNouDq
也要容許自己有「做不到」的過程。
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