
93Please respect copyright.PENANAKCVHjRgqed
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,93Please respect copyright.PENANAQIbFbMNbXT
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。93Please respect copyright.PENANAMty5YnCp1D
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,93Please respect copyright.PENANA3j8A4h3Ukp
利用大約45分鐘的時間,93Please respect copyright.PENANAwD2UYpA8ZB
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,93Please respect copyright.PENANA0DoaSdmHi3
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。93Please respect copyright.PENANAgSWmouGPSp
這36條問題分為三組,93Please respect copyright.PENANAgmx2qiVmsV
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;93Please respect copyright.PENANABZBuZ7NFu4
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,93Please respect copyright.PENANA9GfNOHmxJO
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。93Please respect copyright.PENANAhFV4S4ExLm
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事實上,93Please respect copyright.PENANAYZqEZ1k8E6
出題的人很有機心,93Please respect copyright.PENANAgjupka6yY5
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,93Please respect copyright.PENANALvnd7iG22N
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,93Please respect copyright.PENANAq9VVE3lxtc
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。93Please respect copyright.PENANAJhJcW9wSRU
93Please respect copyright.PENANAgGyZFr8opx
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。93Please respect copyright.PENANA2JJ9T3f0ai
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:93Please respect copyright.PENANAxyQmrRNwlG
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,93Please respect copyright.PENANAfKHnxs74S8
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。93Please respect copyright.PENANAbm74pmqwlL
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,93Please respect copyright.PENANAYPnFCdr5rk
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。93Please respect copyright.PENANARK2hBaj16w
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,93Please respect copyright.PENANAuGl4Tx6osG
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:93Please respect copyright.PENANAAgNACBIge7
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出93Please respect copyright.PENANA0E822TX4uG
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點93Please respect copyright.PENANAwPwVEAwFt7
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解93Please respect copyright.PENANAgBDeTEtPRx
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,93Please respect copyright.PENANAFrAhPvlo3F
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,93Please respect copyright.PENANA9gujsH9Jyq
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,93Please respect copyright.PENANATqTS8ysnHR
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,93Please respect copyright.PENANACDfqaHY9w4
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,93Please respect copyright.PENANAkUqxDEU7ym
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,93Please respect copyright.PENANAtXWJfCwNO3
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?93Please respect copyright.PENANAgmqlOhO7xz
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》93Please respect copyright.PENANAme4KQchC36
戀愛心理,第九回。93Please respect copyright.PENANABjNgBPb2WT