
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,89Please respect copyright.PENANAUrKpBFCWaa
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,89Please respect copyright.PENANAWQXvJsOY2z
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。89Please respect copyright.PENANAXdfb7crEYs
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,89Please respect copyright.PENANAviP2XC8oqS
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,89Please respect copyright.PENANAYwqdQPsIV5
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,89Please respect copyright.PENANA0j67ghcLaj
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。89Please respect copyright.PENANAeX3T14GJJ8
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,89Please respect copyright.PENANA3CUOutdHbq
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。89Please respect copyright.PENANAX3g2OFCZT3
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。89Please respect copyright.PENANAqB5lxs5pP6
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那隻驢子本來不用死,89Please respect copyright.PENANAwKMxMPVpLN
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。89Please respect copyright.PENANANbJAU76751
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,89Please respect copyright.PENANAINX7WfX8pJ
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,89Please respect copyright.PENANAgXmFXjZcqa
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,89Please respect copyright.PENANAkUng9IfPRB
以免自取其辱。89Please respect copyright.PENANAa4KBQz342K
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,89Please respect copyright.PENANAks4v1ANJI9
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,89Please respect copyright.PENANA6W3qHevMmx
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,89Please respect copyright.PENANA1ENZeIrze0
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。89Please respect copyright.PENANAFyFqvW04OB
就算不是萍水相逢,89Please respect copyright.PENANAtJlcACdPIm
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,89Please respect copyright.PENANA1wYTs7SR4B
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。89Please respect copyright.PENANA55JBDwevXv
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,89Please respect copyright.PENANAteMVmiMce5
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。89Please respect copyright.PENANADCmRNnDJOr
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,89Please respect copyright.PENANAKVMhUFOiaK
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,89Please respect copyright.PENANA8f5z61mFcW
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,89Please respect copyright.PENANASBbzSpl8eS
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,89Please respect copyright.PENANAS5bo7TGfo8
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。89Please respect copyright.PENANA0o2cry8Mii
其實,89Please respect copyright.PENANAYXMD2P9tOa
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,89Please respect copyright.PENANAw7B9GVouyY
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。89Please respect copyright.PENANAXXN4aI1NTF
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,89Please respect copyright.PENANAUb13pOXJwV
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,89Please respect copyright.PENANALJo3yBUonR
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,89Please respect copyright.PENANAr2Z6EGIXqg
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,89Please respect copyright.PENANADK7vPskxmA
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,89Please respect copyright.PENANAV4vYHkBVvY
即是「第一印象」,89Please respect copyright.PENANAMy0hhho827
這些教導大家都會說得到。89Please respect copyright.PENANAoGlMEhOhzF
89Please respect copyright.PENANAwX9gtYbW87
但不約而同地,89Please respect copyright.PENANAMTGeLf3tQ6
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,89Please respect copyright.PENANAOnJZG50X6p
不主動提及就視為不存在。89Please respect copyright.PENANAEnunvm2AyZ
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,89Please respect copyright.PENANAGCO9clQ1tb
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?89Please respect copyright.PENANAeISzBW2Wjy
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,89Please respect copyright.PENANA40BMVDrmf4
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,89Please respect copyright.PENANA6rBTawZOzX
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。89Please respect copyright.PENANAR8eyZadOLD
89Please respect copyright.PENANAIpvnC7rbN6
我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,89Please respect copyright.PENANAP6LJmn8qtE
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,89Please respect copyright.PENANAA2165qz7Uh
這不是我胡亂杜撰。89Please respect copyright.PENANAEfvJ2uarlm
如此的話,89Please respect copyright.PENANA3rH5CF9OUv
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?89Please respect copyright.PENANAhM0ppHPitx
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,89Please respect copyright.PENANA7bvDQAwc3j
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。89Please respect copyright.PENANAoVGnsm5cj3
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不過,89Please respect copyright.PENANAEf5bNr0aIC
鍾仁宇更大的錯,89Please respect copyright.PENANAO6tyJR727O
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,89Please respect copyright.PENANANmUause6Np
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,89Please respect copyright.PENANA42ZNL9lwzB
反而令到感情生活更豐富。89Please respect copyright.PENANAMDUWnfuinw
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,89Please respect copyright.PENANAfDsUwa5kSZ
又怎會落得被利用的下場?89Please respect copyright.PENANAP66azVY0zS
89Please respect copyright.PENANAO4zsWTlTND
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,89Please respect copyright.PENANAYuX0dHw0UL
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,89Please respect copyright.PENANAK6zgpZVGeL
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,89Please respect copyright.PENANAoeLVlvkn7k
我無十分認真看過這電影,89Please respect copyright.PENANA9RgSvMK3E9
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。89Please respect copyright.PENANA0Sl3HOtq6G
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。89Please respect copyright.PENANACNDneh4kX1
89Please respect copyright.PENANA6yXwZDP0X4
讀者們,89Please respect copyright.PENANAUVWZ5EKXk4
如果你是鍾仁宇,89Please respect copyright.PENANAQ42us8fp14
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?89Please respect copyright.PENANAvkBhsODjta
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》89Please respect copyright.PENANAiCbEAkSFpS
戀愛心理,第四回。