
87Please respect copyright.PENANAhf6MROQZ7v
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,87Please respect copyright.PENANASzW2HXGaKC
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。87Please respect copyright.PENANAWDe95Cgq4q
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,87Please respect copyright.PENANA3YyGuJhAVP
利用大約45分鐘的時間,87Please respect copyright.PENANAxKTxV7nIg1
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,87Please respect copyright.PENANAFXlNo5LHeg
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。87Please respect copyright.PENANAQjGGyQwwMB
這36條問題分為三組,87Please respect copyright.PENANASS2gsBLnXR
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;87Please respect copyright.PENANApy0BiCW1EQ
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,87Please respect copyright.PENANAVzjydw7HCp
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。87Please respect copyright.PENANAl0R7UvMxwA
87Please respect copyright.PENANA08netJYblb
事實上,87Please respect copyright.PENANA2mtfn2AFp2
出題的人很有機心,87Please respect copyright.PENANA72cEUWqzlw
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,87Please respect copyright.PENANApi1NDV0qj5
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,87Please respect copyright.PENANA0GeVSiEUkG
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。87Please respect copyright.PENANAtoj54lTfP6
87Please respect copyright.PENANAp3BpM3LCa0
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。87Please respect copyright.PENANA4gIjV5gS9o
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:87Please respect copyright.PENANA9vH6uPZCVQ
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,87Please respect copyright.PENANAAp3Rg4RxiG
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。87Please respect copyright.PENANArrvheKegES
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,87Please respect copyright.PENANAEXakdeXafH
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。87Please respect copyright.PENANAWWTRiSmwa2
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,87Please respect copyright.PENANAIfAE0sQeMa
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:87Please respect copyright.PENANAVpiajHirMx
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出87Please respect copyright.PENANAN5XLHKcncO
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點87Please respect copyright.PENANAuxTQJ5maXl
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解87Please respect copyright.PENANAfIf6q2pnJz
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,87Please respect copyright.PENANA7aC62sPYWT
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,87Please respect copyright.PENANA1E6tKyTAI6
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,87Please respect copyright.PENANAukqaTAlznL
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,87Please respect copyright.PENANA89GRaZSt6B
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,87Please respect copyright.PENANA4V9gpZbljd
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,87Please respect copyright.PENANA4yuYuF5ZaT
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?87Please respect copyright.PENANAFKYf91Fah7
87Please respect copyright.PENANA6w56NCiP0e
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》87Please respect copyright.PENANAhd2PM3N1iU
戀愛心理,第九回。87Please respect copyright.PENANASl9NIp5JPu