
90Please respect copyright.PENANA8vS8OQl0fN
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,90Please respect copyright.PENANA95yvyJqyqa
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。90Please respect copyright.PENANAa6Oi6wZc4k
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,90Please respect copyright.PENANAmfTOHPxMiQ
利用大約45分鐘的時間,90Please respect copyright.PENANA4o8gilq65K
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,90Please respect copyright.PENANABe7qHR514b
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。90Please respect copyright.PENANAIJaQi3chbn
這36條問題分為三組,90Please respect copyright.PENANAqPTLErA4GM
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;90Please respect copyright.PENANAKcV5aggGao
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,90Please respect copyright.PENANABWWPg6N770
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。90Please respect copyright.PENANAGp3zjn7XSM
90Please respect copyright.PENANAfLtmhNtxRs
事實上,90Please respect copyright.PENANAdY9Qc7sfoz
出題的人很有機心,90Please respect copyright.PENANAyQw6TTt6og
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,90Please respect copyright.PENANAmFE8rLMVN4
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,90Please respect copyright.PENANAHEf6mdKdKn
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。90Please respect copyright.PENANAWiXMHjbJaP
90Please respect copyright.PENANAeEthqXYRq4
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。90Please respect copyright.PENANAacPkq61JqV
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:90Please respect copyright.PENANA3XTkaQqCpP
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,90Please respect copyright.PENANAMLRmF7xvlL
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。90Please respect copyright.PENANAmLYCgaOtSQ
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,90Please respect copyright.PENANAw9QCWe0iTD
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。90Please respect copyright.PENANAtREjhpP6SJ
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,90Please respect copyright.PENANApejsYJfXY9
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:90Please respect copyright.PENANADA3Um245qc
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出90Please respect copyright.PENANAA9jWrmw1mB
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點90Please respect copyright.PENANAz4qCOnRBBe
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解90Please respect copyright.PENANAbJ1SvNJxvT
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,90Please respect copyright.PENANAVDfqgVMHz9
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,90Please respect copyright.PENANAt1it64FL4I
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,90Please respect copyright.PENANAfldFmVMnmE
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,90Please respect copyright.PENANAf1DF27bcRC
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,90Please respect copyright.PENANArEFGOjYXUL
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,90Please respect copyright.PENANAEjpeL4fg06
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?90Please respect copyright.PENANA8smmSnu5yB
90Please respect copyright.PENANATh2Qbuqn8C
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》90Please respect copyright.PENANAiJJwA8q8BA
戀愛心理,第九回。90Please respect copyright.PENANAyYgORuf5Ew