
89Please respect copyright.PENANAT7J6xLkvGH
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,89Please respect copyright.PENANAZ3ABuyOnr2
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。89Please respect copyright.PENANAzIunjxMG7p
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,89Please respect copyright.PENANAzvEk7cZroS
利用大約45分鐘的時間,89Please respect copyright.PENANAplLstmIGUm
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,89Please respect copyright.PENANAPEjVxJQCOE
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。89Please respect copyright.PENANADVUzndgLQR
這36條問題分為三組,89Please respect copyright.PENANAh8oUs1Bx6f
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;89Please respect copyright.PENANA0bKzyaiQJq
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,89Please respect copyright.PENANASHfJJVukaL
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。89Please respect copyright.PENANAKRH9fBbVJJ
89Please respect copyright.PENANApPlZKTBCnH
事實上,89Please respect copyright.PENANAf3ph74kwIu
出題的人很有機心,89Please respect copyright.PENANAyyRtsI2Vkd
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,89Please respect copyright.PENANAtzk3t69Fy7
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,89Please respect copyright.PENANAp2i08OCRKR
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。89Please respect copyright.PENANAmf5NUb4EEx
89Please respect copyright.PENANAVw0OlxWnsZ
電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。89Please respect copyright.PENANAl82AqVVmGH
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:89Please respect copyright.PENANApUg39jnN7Z
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,89Please respect copyright.PENANAIKN69FZIAv
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。89Please respect copyright.PENANAmKnzmI9zq7
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,89Please respect copyright.PENANA147B6lIluw
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。89Please respect copyright.PENANAM4BHWEEcKR
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,89Please respect copyright.PENANANWjTS6coug
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:89Please respect copyright.PENANAtLwY1YiE7X
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出89Please respect copyright.PENANAjWA47NVTFz
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點89Please respect copyright.PENANAejty7G0Yka
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解89Please respect copyright.PENANAcXfU2NmIM8
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,89Please respect copyright.PENANAq429rsDAqG
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,89Please respect copyright.PENANAYYF8BaRog7
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,89Please respect copyright.PENANATu4UWGPEal
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,89Please respect copyright.PENANAzvoCMDQSIw
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,89Please respect copyright.PENANAq0HzRlH3t2
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,89Please respect copyright.PENANA6XuAGErMC8
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?89Please respect copyright.PENANAK6Xr7bPJtr
89Please respect copyright.PENANAScp2WyLcDn
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》89Please respect copyright.PENANAcEarOf9gKA
戀愛心理,第九回。89Please respect copyright.PENANAma2Ta39Qsq