
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,92Please respect copyright.PENANAj7u7zDjyxg
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,92Please respect copyright.PENANAjocDv8hXt9
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。92Please respect copyright.PENANApYiFSA9mrn
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,92Please respect copyright.PENANAMZAPCPIde7
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,92Please respect copyright.PENANARiLvrbKKJV
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,92Please respect copyright.PENANABPuuug0lj4
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。92Please respect copyright.PENANAItGa925cx7
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,92Please respect copyright.PENANAOMy8Brl4RM
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。92Please respect copyright.PENANAkJEYsG1NWP
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。92Please respect copyright.PENANABzF1rZ3gCX
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那隻驢子本來不用死,92Please respect copyright.PENANAKmskpOYNxl
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。92Please respect copyright.PENANA71FMY5gxKj
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,92Please respect copyright.PENANAZa4YDYAeKX
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,92Please respect copyright.PENANAWmqsJDNpGE
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,92Please respect copyright.PENANAUuMwaY2mat
以免自取其辱。92Please respect copyright.PENANAzwSXkvAQDW
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,92Please respect copyright.PENANAuWlxEiNIih
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,92Please respect copyright.PENANAJzW80ufnZi
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,92Please respect copyright.PENANAz9K2MG75E9
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。92Please respect copyright.PENANAtdCBAPvooQ
就算不是萍水相逢,92Please respect copyright.PENANA0Yk6z5WmQC
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,92Please respect copyright.PENANA5Kd8rFYHYf
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。92Please respect copyright.PENANAHL46RelThA
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,92Please respect copyright.PENANAGnOOZsYkTC
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。92Please respect copyright.PENANArpdJ5Mab3t
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,92Please respect copyright.PENANAQOcrDbz9Tr
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,92Please respect copyright.PENANANxre3K3bKY
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,92Please respect copyright.PENANAT7zy6lkBdZ
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,92Please respect copyright.PENANAI9kCOZAu0y
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。92Please respect copyright.PENANAH4MX6Xo4WW
其實,92Please respect copyright.PENANArSbDhQA5Tf
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,92Please respect copyright.PENANAAxgTp6Riyy
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。92Please respect copyright.PENANAztmA750MCW
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,92Please respect copyright.PENANAnnoIWaYREo
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,92Please respect copyright.PENANAz9EKek3jTn
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,92Please respect copyright.PENANAgGEsTmFmE8
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,92Please respect copyright.PENANA2wvb7dEWfS
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,92Please respect copyright.PENANAOhtCjxbAZW
即是「第一印象」,92Please respect copyright.PENANA68VgYaXQ3I
這些教導大家都會說得到。92Please respect copyright.PENANAeBUCJLd4Kv
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但不約而同地,92Please respect copyright.PENANA73VvNPzP3Z
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,92Please respect copyright.PENANAY6dHp7nPy1
不主動提及就視為不存在。92Please respect copyright.PENANALhlB0VpKQp
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,92Please respect copyright.PENANA0BxwqOa35B
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?92Please respect copyright.PENANARSJt2cpuTm
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,92Please respect copyright.PENANAOIx71hg5Nk
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,92Please respect copyright.PENANADZgcg3GGjv
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。92Please respect copyright.PENANAZLIgMLwHBu
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,92Please respect copyright.PENANAQTey6hZAlg
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,92Please respect copyright.PENANAsIjINhaFZD
這不是我胡亂杜撰。92Please respect copyright.PENANAC36nA3z8wH
如此的話,92Please respect copyright.PENANAGkCTeQBQNG
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?92Please respect copyright.PENANA15Ml9emTV8
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,92Please respect copyright.PENANAdRwzXELAYA
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。92Please respect copyright.PENANAPsqMM48dtW
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不過,92Please respect copyright.PENANAkwGtyfBiRx
鍾仁宇更大的錯,92Please respect copyright.PENANAGAScrd64xd
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,92Please respect copyright.PENANARmWM1HxP3s
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,92Please respect copyright.PENANA7k5uhYqCqU
反而令到感情生活更豐富。92Please respect copyright.PENANAZcFBXXtazV
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,92Please respect copyright.PENANARZsYbdv39k
又怎會落得被利用的下場?92Please respect copyright.PENANARfryFwb8jT
92Please respect copyright.PENANACy3lHoubZA
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,92Please respect copyright.PENANAPxKPMHqXMr
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,92Please respect copyright.PENANAs4Liypqjr7
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,92Please respect copyright.PENANA1vYoxstAFr
我無十分認真看過這電影,92Please respect copyright.PENANAEuvNAT0mM9
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。92Please respect copyright.PENANA36tQWYV2i6
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。92Please respect copyright.PENANAuaBxm4rvWX
92Please respect copyright.PENANAiyhAbqZyY1
讀者們,92Please respect copyright.PENANAgkRkyFivOX
如果你是鍾仁宇,92Please respect copyright.PENANA3XcogwCjoB
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?92Please respect copyright.PENANAbiWNJpmAB5
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》92Please respect copyright.PENANAHQGZIH1I5o
戀愛心理,第四回。