
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,90Please respect copyright.PENANAazNOuWxJZz
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,90Please respect copyright.PENANAgJFObDaovH
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。90Please respect copyright.PENANADVlWaXkpHA
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,90Please respect copyright.PENANA4TE0nLEatL
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,90Please respect copyright.PENANADm5Ie7dh2N
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,90Please respect copyright.PENANAkU1Of697AV
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。90Please respect copyright.PENANAkuOTbtQm8U
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,90Please respect copyright.PENANAQ8OocIYu0D
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。90Please respect copyright.PENANAVyVOrRGy1K
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。90Please respect copyright.PENANATafvJWdYp5
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那隻驢子本來不用死,90Please respect copyright.PENANAs3Sn6pz8CV
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。90Please respect copyright.PENANA9exYgQvSu3
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,90Please respect copyright.PENANAOY8gu4bXRX
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,90Please respect copyright.PENANA08X5wvEd4U
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,90Please respect copyright.PENANANJJCoev1Wp
以免自取其辱。90Please respect copyright.PENANAJHW2m5zg3u
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,90Please respect copyright.PENANAr32cTNlUwE
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,90Please respect copyright.PENANAlG1Oofupbg
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,90Please respect copyright.PENANAahM2ymF9ek
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。90Please respect copyright.PENANAU2vtGSMlwV
就算不是萍水相逢,90Please respect copyright.PENANA9XpNswwGvd
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,90Please respect copyright.PENANAOEOozKfAE9
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。90Please respect copyright.PENANABJmwNdSCCr
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,90Please respect copyright.PENANAhHGxwEJyzi
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。90Please respect copyright.PENANAJhgWltHE3X
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,90Please respect copyright.PENANAo1j5pxlwGl
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,90Please respect copyright.PENANAIn3wnVrsHR
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,90Please respect copyright.PENANAtSjHa6IHGz
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,90Please respect copyright.PENANAoHHMkPPqeJ
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。90Please respect copyright.PENANAQotFcgGDmW
其實,90Please respect copyright.PENANA8qF836ZNZI
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,90Please respect copyright.PENANAaZv9EHZ6zA
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。90Please respect copyright.PENANARKNoShDZXh
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,90Please respect copyright.PENANAnNFaDAFXYS
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,90Please respect copyright.PENANAzOT1JHb30p
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,90Please respect copyright.PENANAmtHF1KM7DA
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,90Please respect copyright.PENANAlgji0AMkJJ
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,90Please respect copyright.PENANAGZIVL0m7wM
即是「第一印象」,90Please respect copyright.PENANADQfFUlzlP1
這些教導大家都會說得到。90Please respect copyright.PENANAiW0KZthb3X
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但不約而同地,90Please respect copyright.PENANAbbne5YaWM0
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,90Please respect copyright.PENANAt3SxqlBai6
不主動提及就視為不存在。90Please respect copyright.PENANAoy42AL6i0r
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,90Please respect copyright.PENANA44ZmYFZFYE
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?90Please respect copyright.PENANAkJ9LEMZyt3
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,90Please respect copyright.PENANAaPL6r9KwMy
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,90Please respect copyright.PENANAl35DcR9pa9
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。90Please respect copyright.PENANAwkPW7xbOiV
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,90Please respect copyright.PENANA1z77VYdY2S
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,90Please respect copyright.PENANALJlo6vrjIT
這不是我胡亂杜撰。90Please respect copyright.PENANAkDqNBsvIb7
如此的話,90Please respect copyright.PENANAfTnMk3tDoo
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?90Please respect copyright.PENANAsCN3Cjsajb
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,90Please respect copyright.PENANA87RdAwWHoP
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。90Please respect copyright.PENANATv4UELWqkR
90Please respect copyright.PENANAb1S0RJGjvc
不過,90Please respect copyright.PENANAldT2uPl7L6
鍾仁宇更大的錯,90Please respect copyright.PENANA3nuY5TCMK0
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,90Please respect copyright.PENANAcMpPxjSUrU
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,90Please respect copyright.PENANAhyWpVHGaCa
反而令到感情生活更豐富。90Please respect copyright.PENANAx4ByQNA7ck
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,90Please respect copyright.PENANAfu09V1ZhxQ
又怎會落得被利用的下場?90Please respect copyright.PENANAdEuT77Ziov
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,90Please respect copyright.PENANAoUNCBDu7sJ
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,90Please respect copyright.PENANApfd8mq6qIF
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,90Please respect copyright.PENANAy1oCYTmK6L
我無十分認真看過這電影,90Please respect copyright.PENANAfaD91HEsnZ
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。90Please respect copyright.PENANA1mpQWStB4r
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。90Please respect copyright.PENANARJTJBX6xLf
90Please respect copyright.PENANAQBESR0SfpL
讀者們,90Please respect copyright.PENANAkuYVcnlmeZ
如果你是鍾仁宇,90Please respect copyright.PENANABefQsMKjfd
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?90Please respect copyright.PENANA1Fo6vKX9fc
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》90Please respect copyright.PENANAdR1ifGYvhv
戀愛心理,第四回。