
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,116Please respect copyright.PENANAYAinBVbTKk
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,116Please respect copyright.PENANAnBedrX9hpg
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。116Please respect copyright.PENANAyfduGhvIS7
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,116Please respect copyright.PENANAlcDiNgpvJd
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,116Please respect copyright.PENANAax73EOtqZ6
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,116Please respect copyright.PENANA8iAl4OdMR0
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。116Please respect copyright.PENANAeObjOu4zQO
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,116Please respect copyright.PENANAEOzwgC9Uk0
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。116Please respect copyright.PENANAZ9Em12z9LX
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。116Please respect copyright.PENANA1fKli1UqvV
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那隻驢子本來不用死,116Please respect copyright.PENANARbPJnsUUMJ
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。116Please respect copyright.PENANAikqgnyBy9M
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,116Please respect copyright.PENANA1yJtwrHrnD
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,116Please respect copyright.PENANA0IHEZFnxoO
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,116Please respect copyright.PENANAijnub6m15o
以免自取其辱。116Please respect copyright.PENANAl5XR7inzim
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,116Please respect copyright.PENANACaEKwYCp3T
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,116Please respect copyright.PENANA8n3aL6649h
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,116Please respect copyright.PENANAUqFM5WmRm5
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。116Please respect copyright.PENANAx2FLTpjTwk
就算不是萍水相逢,116Please respect copyright.PENANAFwSdKuo2s0
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,116Please respect copyright.PENANAAEd9ivl90V
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。116Please respect copyright.PENANAx7um9TtJtw
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,116Please respect copyright.PENANAgvah7weNXb
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。116Please respect copyright.PENANAB4JxO9vQGX
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,116Please respect copyright.PENANAVlR6aEDg2v
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,116Please respect copyright.PENANA51gviIPjiP
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,116Please respect copyright.PENANA5PJvOzF4H4
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,116Please respect copyright.PENANA7GokD1sN1D
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。116Please respect copyright.PENANAL0reZULP6R
其實,116Please respect copyright.PENANAoZwWslBPNs
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,116Please respect copyright.PENANAbpH7Rl6Wmu
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。116Please respect copyright.PENANAL9obo0CnI2
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,116Please respect copyright.PENANAAy0mkZad7g
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,116Please respect copyright.PENANAukF4V3WGaY
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,116Please respect copyright.PENANAsrZOD6xwFx
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,116Please respect copyright.PENANAeWNaOuL3VC
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,116Please respect copyright.PENANA67v7q89n5Y
即是「第一印象」,116Please respect copyright.PENANAAfivpHvd9H
這些教導大家都會說得到。116Please respect copyright.PENANAUwxG5Ml4Gi
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但不約而同地,116Please respect copyright.PENANAmXuEHLRCtE
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,116Please respect copyright.PENANAX1tOUjpDCy
不主動提及就視為不存在。116Please respect copyright.PENANAFZZD6L9Gnl
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,116Please respect copyright.PENANAfMa6ZUj2Kb
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?116Please respect copyright.PENANAqdjn6TxBge
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,116Please respect copyright.PENANAaveGB50X7j
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,116Please respect copyright.PENANAwyuSfiaYJ8
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。116Please respect copyright.PENANALCkMs7EnZi
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,116Please respect copyright.PENANAZ2VsjROZi0
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,116Please respect copyright.PENANATKGdkrcKPR
這不是我胡亂杜撰。116Please respect copyright.PENANABACBHyaHfN
如此的話,116Please respect copyright.PENANABEzfMzxdyY
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?116Please respect copyright.PENANACG5CL9PcvJ
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,116Please respect copyright.PENANAZUKTziyA97
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。116Please respect copyright.PENANACXOkE9x3gx
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不過,116Please respect copyright.PENANAphz8B9zJnw
鍾仁宇更大的錯,116Please respect copyright.PENANAsIThAloDqT
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,116Please respect copyright.PENANATArFpCyzmL
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,116Please respect copyright.PENANATltnOLrfp2
反而令到感情生活更豐富。116Please respect copyright.PENANAxxdfguli8L
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,116Please respect copyright.PENANA6UspO0kD8d
又怎會落得被利用的下場?116Please respect copyright.PENANA9QEkvPYTWN
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,116Please respect copyright.PENANAraNn1yDhRR
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,116Please respect copyright.PENANAoja7XP0mY5
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,116Please respect copyright.PENANA5inupTohou
我無十分認真看過這電影,116Please respect copyright.PENANA7NkrNDEFiy
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。116Please respect copyright.PENANAK3Bi4N0aOy
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。116Please respect copyright.PENANAOCcCdLvFL7
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讀者們,116Please respect copyright.PENANACBDuKZ4Rg0
如果你是鍾仁宇,116Please respect copyright.PENANAshjtxWycfL
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?116Please respect copyright.PENANAj56Wj7HKcQ
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》116Please respect copyright.PENANApAwAivUgWb
戀愛心理,第四回。