
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,83Please respect copyright.PENANAnlkNCWGkpR
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,83Please respect copyright.PENANA4KwGi0kwze
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。83Please respect copyright.PENANAUEAvPp1GEL
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,83Please respect copyright.PENANA4UNh3xVG64
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,83Please respect copyright.PENANAKWnyRipAyD
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,83Please respect copyright.PENANA4lkeQciRqA
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。83Please respect copyright.PENANAjaY8wONgJp
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,83Please respect copyright.PENANA8o1ajSaBWw
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。83Please respect copyright.PENANAn7UJ8kjCEo
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。83Please respect copyright.PENANAtahfXCzEpQ
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那隻驢子本來不用死,83Please respect copyright.PENANAr54U61QB1h
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。83Please respect copyright.PENANAbf4ke3KsHn
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,83Please respect copyright.PENANAScHnZIyjwM
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,83Please respect copyright.PENANAdjNkEjn7FQ
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,83Please respect copyright.PENANAUi7fsC6gMD
以免自取其辱。83Please respect copyright.PENANAKvjczH9HMq
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,83Please respect copyright.PENANAxWEoRxezxg
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,83Please respect copyright.PENANAh1TjpUKwGs
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,83Please respect copyright.PENANAmcdQtTTzNT
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。83Please respect copyright.PENANAHmLSTsOaHb
就算不是萍水相逢,83Please respect copyright.PENANAUs0TxiEcvn
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,83Please respect copyright.PENANAk3a2olBHJx
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。83Please respect copyright.PENANA1keRnMotgr
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,83Please respect copyright.PENANA3loNTpDCOJ
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。83Please respect copyright.PENANAUEHOkUrpBv
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,83Please respect copyright.PENANA1RrTNaCqNe
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,83Please respect copyright.PENANALKnbNlWFij
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,83Please respect copyright.PENANAsU09HtjJ01
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,83Please respect copyright.PENANAh4IPL7gPqe
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。83Please respect copyright.PENANAcRz2cPJnG9
其實,83Please respect copyright.PENANACyM70Ldg0C
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,83Please respect copyright.PENANA631RMzjVxr
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。83Please respect copyright.PENANA2TLWFgIb9A
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,83Please respect copyright.PENANAzzKAWPApeg
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,83Please respect copyright.PENANA92ndpjdy3Z
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,83Please respect copyright.PENANABuerOlr46d
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,83Please respect copyright.PENANAKpgRqAHPqm
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,83Please respect copyright.PENANAvb2DEc8ZfL
即是「第一印象」,83Please respect copyright.PENANADmQPLZaLOg
這些教導大家都會說得到。83Please respect copyright.PENANAXpvNBdUcFN
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但不約而同地,83Please respect copyright.PENANAZpkN4AEuSS
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,83Please respect copyright.PENANAfKq1pxG3RP
不主動提及就視為不存在。83Please respect copyright.PENANA1m6XekFPZI
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,83Please respect copyright.PENANAQs9USA6U4z
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?83Please respect copyright.PENANAY1AUisbLrg
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,83Please respect copyright.PENANA6xINO8WNtE
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,83Please respect copyright.PENANAEUBHaUbsei
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。83Please respect copyright.PENANAoDvtAieyUS
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,83Please respect copyright.PENANAlqs4T54fO7
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,83Please respect copyright.PENANAJ3hpJwJtDl
這不是我胡亂杜撰。83Please respect copyright.PENANA12w8ZMC8J4
如此的話,83Please respect copyright.PENANA7zVb3r0yXg
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?83Please respect copyright.PENANAG2wAV0DExE
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,83Please respect copyright.PENANAsQvauQDzqU
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。83Please respect copyright.PENANA2WLaGR4BFE
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不過,83Please respect copyright.PENANA3WcUbIeH8c
鍾仁宇更大的錯,83Please respect copyright.PENANAcKTJtLJnu3
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,83Please respect copyright.PENANABqBvT5ffBO
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,83Please respect copyright.PENANAE7BGmLrPuE
反而令到感情生活更豐富。83Please respect copyright.PENANAWlMMUeAhRN
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,83Please respect copyright.PENANAj25MhEOwUn
又怎會落得被利用的下場?83Please respect copyright.PENANAThkwUHPK1U
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,83Please respect copyright.PENANAwu1yJztORh
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,83Please respect copyright.PENANArDKuHDzuEp
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,83Please respect copyright.PENANA3YyZ9FCSwZ
我無十分認真看過這電影,83Please respect copyright.PENANALKbiBV6GyC
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。83Please respect copyright.PENANAR6hrlSUnL5
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。83Please respect copyright.PENANAV9OBQYHLXm
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讀者們,83Please respect copyright.PENANARhrEocWPzA
如果你是鍾仁宇,83Please respect copyright.PENANAhDWgbL9NGR
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?83Please respect copyright.PENANABD1SnBPm7i
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》83Please respect copyright.PENANAdaHQ6DlAFm
戀愛心理,第四回。