
123Please respect copyright.PENANAQBbAL8gMp9
美國心理學家阿瑟亞倫(Arthur Aron) 1997年曾設計了一個實驗,123Please respect copyright.PENANAcOnZaZY7pw
名稱為「人際親密感產生試驗」。123Please respect copyright.PENANAL8aG3bWuSS
參與實驗的陌生男女兩個兩個分組坐在一起,123Please respect copyright.PENANAJFAXqVogev
利用大約45分鐘的時間,123Please respect copyright.PENANARtnY8g7Rgl
男女雙方各自問同樣的36條問題,123Please respect copyright.PENANAdZh5QLHjPb
看看會否立即對對方產生了好感。123Please respect copyright.PENANASX7ZjLl0gx
這36條問題分為三組,123Please respect copyright.PENANAM6oxlyd37O
第一組關於雙方的願望、對事情的想法;123Please respect copyright.PENANAooK8DDh0fK
第二組是開始深入了解內心的渴望、價值,以及更為個人的部份,123Please respect copyright.PENANASlG56y9cHM
第三組牽涉更多雙方的問句,分享不完美的一面。123Please respect copyright.PENANADhv7OnZndW
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事實上,123Please respect copyright.PENANAsWx1rruiuU
出題的人很有機心,123Please respect copyright.PENANAPkE2d4D82s
因為這如同是一個引人入局的圈套,123Please respect copyright.PENANALNMAF6kY2q
兩個人不知不覺之間將自己的愛好、價值觀、經歷都跟對方分享,123Please respect copyright.PENANA0O2C9rE4so
進入內心的程度愈來愈深。123Please respect copyright.PENANA4binJykEky
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電影《情留半天》所用的橋段其實很接近。123Please respect copyright.PENANAfiJhtlNd5l
電影導演李察·連利加是明顯地導向了一個理想進程:123Please respect copyright.PENANAZDcgwOiFGA
「交談>分享>深入了解>好感」,123Please respect copyright.PENANAcFXXsmZH6W
從而得出向陌生人展露脆弱是一種選擇的結論。123Please respect copyright.PENANAAK4HPWDH4r
有人曾指出這實驗要成功的前提,123Please respect copyright.PENANAU4rh5942zx
就是雙方有共識想將彼此關係變得更進一步。123Please respect copyright.PENANAnOybawPVhe
若然神女有心、襄王無夢的話,123Please respect copyright.PENANAqctCd0Vse7
整個聊天對話變得沒有意義。
但是,這實驗亦衍生更多問題:123Please respect copyright.PENANAXMXHKubdHS
1. 它預設了對方不會將私密內容流出123Please respect copyright.PENANA9KB73NAmJM
2. 它假設彼此有足夠的承受能力承擔彼此的弱點123Please respect copyright.PENANAs0DFdiVlCO
3. 它假定了彼此之間有足夠的認識和了解123Please respect copyright.PENANAaHkrPFuA6S
4. 它預設了雙方都不會說對方想聽的說話。
很可惜,123Please respect copyright.PENANAwpeI0SPGc5
小說裡的鍾仁宇無電影裡的男主角般幸運,123Please respect copyright.PENANAiM2HpHh8Fk
因為黃慧詩很成功利用這手法,123Please respect copyright.PENANA0U1DwHRnzO
去令鍾仁宇不自禁地說了心裡一直無法向人分享的弱點,123Please respect copyright.PENANAsfFoQ2FG5H
結果一步一步跌了陷阱裡無法自拔。
這段所謂的戀情,123Please respect copyright.PENANAHUul9PIatv
鍾仁宇由一開始已經埋下全然失敗的種子。
但,123Please respect copyright.PENANAHkwBzjFJRx
究竟鍾仁宇是如何跌入這不存在的感情戲?123Please respect copyright.PENANAuEB9lfKVVN
123Please respect copyright.PENANACfIgsnU6Vp
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》123Please respect copyright.PENANAeuTq0KmiyM
戀愛心理,第九回。123Please respect copyright.PENANAJ1UaLPuP47