
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,82Please respect copyright.PENANAom8BE6b6Dc
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,82Please respect copyright.PENANAayWss6ergT
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。82Please respect copyright.PENANAR3w42xK9Sp
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,82Please respect copyright.PENANAgmw4i2gcUR
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,82Please respect copyright.PENANAPGsUt5XRNm
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,82Please respect copyright.PENANAl318BfafnT
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。82Please respect copyright.PENANAZV3lDvkpP9
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,82Please respect copyright.PENANAW6FI1tzzcc
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。82Please respect copyright.PENANAGIE2FCrmQx
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。82Please respect copyright.PENANAK1ATEfINU1
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那隻驢子本來不用死,82Please respect copyright.PENANAjY1y1LThdh
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。82Please respect copyright.PENANAL8Oza9ATy6
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,82Please respect copyright.PENANAAIDNc1gWhV
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,82Please respect copyright.PENANAhUnedaUcok
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,82Please respect copyright.PENANAQgy2HfsoD1
以免自取其辱。82Please respect copyright.PENANAS5M3WUPLcO
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,82Please respect copyright.PENANAu6G0KeFqfY
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,82Please respect copyright.PENANAF4ntvE2Xz4
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,82Please respect copyright.PENANAvpQcRHlDYo
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。82Please respect copyright.PENANAYe17gp7fjE
就算不是萍水相逢,82Please respect copyright.PENANAKqtNWeI96x
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,82Please respect copyright.PENANA11ULM4KeTY
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。82Please respect copyright.PENANAjiM123Vz53
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,82Please respect copyright.PENANADDwO7PzQZs
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。82Please respect copyright.PENANAWoc87vznWN
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,82Please respect copyright.PENANASkxhK3q3PZ
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,82Please respect copyright.PENANA7rHwV7iczJ
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,82Please respect copyright.PENANA7wH5Rw9Xvg
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,82Please respect copyright.PENANAoZvhY7Keab
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。82Please respect copyright.PENANAF9NrWsL7wb
其實,82Please respect copyright.PENANA3VgBUYK2LW
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,82Please respect copyright.PENANAyBjiSurtS3
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。82Please respect copyright.PENANA8cwig1ZTNc
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,82Please respect copyright.PENANAOePFGFyoMS
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,82Please respect copyright.PENANAo4FOhNhabU
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,82Please respect copyright.PENANAu2RVWSS6DC
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,82Please respect copyright.PENANA7eJrihLOcO
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,82Please respect copyright.PENANAEE954BBERu
即是「第一印象」,82Please respect copyright.PENANAMvCzCSStCT
這些教導大家都會說得到。82Please respect copyright.PENANAkSK45hKjMZ
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但不約而同地,82Please respect copyright.PENANASmvfFpzJib
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,82Please respect copyright.PENANA19yWz8uHSR
不主動提及就視為不存在。82Please respect copyright.PENANA8lt7CtjQ6E
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,82Please respect copyright.PENANAhW26xsMPrZ
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?82Please respect copyright.PENANA0kJwbIwqSS
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,82Please respect copyright.PENANA3pYHqzNnbl
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,82Please respect copyright.PENANAWsQUZLV4hP
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。82Please respect copyright.PENANAebUreZDVCv
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,82Please respect copyright.PENANAWEctdr6THa
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,82Please respect copyright.PENANA7IRdVJd3oR
這不是我胡亂杜撰。82Please respect copyright.PENANATHZDD0ZP2C
如此的話,82Please respect copyright.PENANAwohRbwWCWt
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?82Please respect copyright.PENANAGGlNEcMUd9
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,82Please respect copyright.PENANAhuIBz4eybX
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。82Please respect copyright.PENANAZMOK8xYxVR
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不過,82Please respect copyright.PENANAS0KjBzQ1fX
鍾仁宇更大的錯,82Please respect copyright.PENANAyxKV7OB0lW
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,82Please respect copyright.PENANAcGe33gPXxH
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,82Please respect copyright.PENANAQhSOtd51zG
反而令到感情生活更豐富。82Please respect copyright.PENANAeVHMbD0WdO
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,82Please respect copyright.PENANABhXi6cRitp
又怎會落得被利用的下場?82Please respect copyright.PENANAYxMLNyfwNw
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,82Please respect copyright.PENANAUsA9yIUfIl
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,82Please respect copyright.PENANA26u3OToAdi
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,82Please respect copyright.PENANAaNutz4JNNd
我無十分認真看過這電影,82Please respect copyright.PENANAnI3YuaxHDs
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。82Please respect copyright.PENANApQCEcUMpDY
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。82Please respect copyright.PENANAHGlWmRVGKF
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讀者們,82Please respect copyright.PENANAvd6kBU1ldM
如果你是鍾仁宇,82Please respect copyright.PENANA09TmG0MFIa
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?82Please respect copyright.PENANA8mRBfJV7KR
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》82Please respect copyright.PENANADTo8UAa9lb
戀愛心理,第四回。