
「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,91Please respect copyright.PENANAyhZeGfKVnj
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,91Please respect copyright.PENANAvGF1QvhD8A
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。91Please respect copyright.PENANAHnm8bl9t0u
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,91Please respect copyright.PENANAumBnL6mmc6
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,91Please respect copyright.PENANAnbmh25kWIq
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,91Please respect copyright.PENANAEpAcsv3iD5
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。91Please respect copyright.PENANACKTzmqATRs
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,91Please respect copyright.PENANAwrhLagqjS6
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。91Please respect copyright.PENANAQSy779PuYZ
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。91Please respect copyright.PENANAllvyQx0Hba
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那隻驢子本來不用死,91Please respect copyright.PENANAUXdTfAtvDS
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。91Please respect copyright.PENANA4UzdTMuozx
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,91Please respect copyright.PENANA0AFylcVLsC
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,91Please respect copyright.PENANAc1TzSD9B6O
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,91Please respect copyright.PENANAtzERLp6xFA
以免自取其辱。91Please respect copyright.PENANAb3mwvDSGT2
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,91Please respect copyright.PENANAXC71BpL5Ta
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,91Please respect copyright.PENANAMwhuEeWsih
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,91Please respect copyright.PENANAot1DU3W4jo
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。91Please respect copyright.PENANAaawD0TkB7x
就算不是萍水相逢,91Please respect copyright.PENANAOrpHPQxS3B
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,91Please respect copyright.PENANAvx6kKoPqbi
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。91Please respect copyright.PENANAwlRUQUT6xh
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,91Please respect copyright.PENANAEV6BfPwk1i
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。91Please respect copyright.PENANA7u0Zo0Hy19
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,91Please respect copyright.PENANAu1NP5wPoO5
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,91Please respect copyright.PENANAchmXOANlF7
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,91Please respect copyright.PENANAji7P6LC9gQ
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,91Please respect copyright.PENANAXUEqpraGfD
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。91Please respect copyright.PENANAebThX1TocJ
其實,91Please respect copyright.PENANANp31Ski2NO
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,91Please respect copyright.PENANASV8aBczNWP
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。91Please respect copyright.PENANAAgsZtICv1L
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,91Please respect copyright.PENANATlXRA7aHAz
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,91Please respect copyright.PENANART1aMZqesG
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,91Please respect copyright.PENANAGdlo8pulTP
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,91Please respect copyright.PENANAnGDQP34h9u
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,91Please respect copyright.PENANAuI5XaRsfEL
即是「第一印象」,91Please respect copyright.PENANAt6BbNBga5j
這些教導大家都會說得到。91Please respect copyright.PENANAZM4j5RajUT
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但不約而同地,91Please respect copyright.PENANAlqnjQFrb1A
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,91Please respect copyright.PENANAXCFtwTiIuu
不主動提及就視為不存在。91Please respect copyright.PENANAcyt4ezvjoN
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,91Please respect copyright.PENANA5DzVQ2Zs6g
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?91Please respect copyright.PENANAdOkyU4seVj
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,91Please respect copyright.PENANABsurRfFdA4
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,91Please respect copyright.PENANAcAFewNO8oU
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。91Please respect copyright.PENANAqTHEIV4tdX
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,91Please respect copyright.PENANATozK4vvvyT
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,91Please respect copyright.PENANAh1xW1oO9pI
這不是我胡亂杜撰。91Please respect copyright.PENANAD7ZJhxWOPS
如此的話,91Please respect copyright.PENANAvJKjBvu3qm
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?91Please respect copyright.PENANAtpClGR7ko1
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,91Please respect copyright.PENANANEmSTJ2vGZ
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。91Please respect copyright.PENANAjmlpnfg5Mh
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不過,91Please respect copyright.PENANA3Ny1LOyOAC
鍾仁宇更大的錯,91Please respect copyright.PENANAp8tVRwShuC
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,91Please respect copyright.PENANA4YPn8hRHff
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,91Please respect copyright.PENANAGAI17jWvxD
反而令到感情生活更豐富。91Please respect copyright.PENANAezP8jjDtph
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,91Please respect copyright.PENANAoLWXf7uM2I
又怎會落得被利用的下場?91Please respect copyright.PENANAaOxCaHPkla
91Please respect copyright.PENANASvKjiTNWaD
今年年頭開始寫這作品時,91Please respect copyright.PENANA8pcZwOKuJZ
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,91Please respect copyright.PENANAPMULU4gZsa
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,91Please respect copyright.PENANAwn1f2wavZv
我無十分認真看過這電影,91Please respect copyright.PENANAXMwkJkfoiY
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。91Please respect copyright.PENANAtvVf0WgaAk
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。91Please respect copyright.PENANAQK4Dq98vuz
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讀者們,91Please respect copyright.PENANAl96bjqO5Vg
如果你是鍾仁宇,91Please respect copyright.PENANAa1BV4lSoF4
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?91Please respect copyright.PENANAxBWQOzcB8q
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》91Please respect copyright.PENANAvfOmn2UwWZ
戀愛心理,第四回。